What People of Influence Are You Surrounding Yourself With?Editor
One of the toughest things about being a business owner is staying optimistic when things look bleak. Last month we talked about different ways to Stay Positive in business and life. One of the things we touched on was avoiding toxic people. I want to get into this a little further because it can have a major influence on your success.
I like to think of myself as a pretty positive and optimistic person (we all do, I’m sure). Don’t get me wrong, I have my days where I’m not quite “feelin’ it”. Everyone has those days. However, there are people in our circles that will always see the glass as half empty. And as the saying goes, “Misery loves company”. In fact, it demands it.
Think about the five people you spend the most time with. Do they raise you up when you’ve had a setback? Do they push you to be better? Are they happy for your successes? Personally, if I’ve had a bad day, I’m going to talk to “my people”. The ones in my corner. My support system. They will sympathize with me and my situation, but then try to help me find solutions to whatever issue I’m having. Sometimes, just showing me a positive spin and reminding me why it’s worth it in the long run is just what I need.
Sadly, some people are quick to jump on the pity train with you and keep you there. It’s easier to point out the obvious and join the bandwagon of negativity. We are influenced by the people we are around most frequently. If those people rarely have a good thing to say, complain about their circumstances often, you may want to revisit how much time you spend with them. Let me be clear, unless they’re completely toxic and drag you down, I’m not implying that you dismiss them from your life. Simply stated, limit your exposure, like anything that isn’t good for you.
Generally speaking, human beings want to be helpful. We mean well. But our disappointments can sometimes become bad energy. When people feel let down, they’re inclined to give bad advice. It’s not what is intended. We think we’re being helpful by giving warnings to those around us that are pursuing their own dreams. Of course, there are instances where alerting to someone harmful or dangerous is necessary. But when a friend or peer is having a bad time, resisting to tell their own war stories is difficult. We need to stop and ask ourselves if this is actually helpful to the situation.
As you become more positive in your own life, it’ll become crystal clear who should be in your circle of influence. Do you surround yourself with people that have similar goals to yours? Perhaps you have individuals in your life that have achieved success in business as well as living a well-balanced life. The key is to figure out what you want first. You’ll then have more clarity on who “your people” are.