Learning to Love the Word… No?Editor
We love hearing the word “yes”. It’s positive and usually means something good is going to follow. However, it’s our instinct to say “no”. That may be a big part of the reason we love “yeses” so much. Because we know how difficult they are to get. When we are told no, we feel rejected. Nobody likes that feeling. Rejection is one of the biggest, if not THE biggest, reasons we don’t take chances in life. Imagine for a moment though, some of the greatest moments in your life. Many of those memories and triumphs likely started with a question. That question very well could have been answered with “no”. Yet, that wasn’t what happened.
See, nothing worthwhile happens to us in life without taking some chances. I’m not suggesting anything harmful or life threatening. Simply put, asking questions is one of the most important things you can do. If you’re an entrepreneur, I may very well be preaching to the choir here. But, occasionally (if I’m being conservative) even business owners get afraid of that word… no.
I learned many years ago to learn to love no’s. it sounded insane at the time. I figured it was some kind of self-help, mind over matter nonsense. Take off the word nonsense, and the rest is pretty accurate. When you hear the word no a lot, it can mean you have something no one has interest in. The more important, and probably more truthful, fact is that it means YOU’RE ASKING! Along with those negative responses will come the yeses. And if you don’t ask, the answer is ALWAYS no. ALWAYS.
If you find that you never hear yes, that’s when you need to examine what you’re offering. To take that another step further, consider HOW you’re asking. If you go into any business deal thinking the answer will be no, it likely will be. This holds true in our personal lives too.
If you believe in what you are doing, don’t shy away from asking for whatever it is you want/need. Sometimes a no is temporary. Things in life, as you know, change. In the meantime, make it a challenge to get as many no’s as possible. How else will you find the yes gem in the mix?